My gf or exgf texted me tonight while she was at work talking about me getting a job. Which is cool, I really want to find a job. She then started talking about me moving to a town thats 30 mins away from here so she can be closer to her job. I told her I want to stay here because Im a first responder/fire fighter. So then she starts talking about how she cant handle me not having a job and wants to break up. Says shes gonna grab her stuff as soon as shes off work and go back to Iowa. I really have been looking for a job. Jobs are hard to come by in my little town and the surrounding areas. I dont know what to do anymore.

 

Yeah, I know what you mean about jobs these days. I still go to school, but only have about another semester to go before I graduate with my degree in software information systems. I haven't been able to find anything lately. Everybody wants experience, but heck, what can I do in the computer field before getting the degree. It's tough! Not to rant, but I know how you feel. I've had nothing but depression with the relationships I've been in. Had a long distance going for about a year and a half and couldn't do it any longer. She was being controlling and always wanted to know where I was. Insecurities...blah blah blah. Can't seem to find a chick worth anything just like a job too...

But I wish you the best man! And I hope everything works out for ya! If there's one thing that always sticks by your side, let it be hope!

 

Thanks man!! Seems like I just cant find a good woman to be by myside no matter what. And women wonder why us guys think that they are all the same? I told her in the beginning that if she didnt end up cheating on me, using me, or leaving me over dumb S***, Id be really surprised. Well, guess Im not gonna be surprised in this one.

 

I found something to help you through this.

 

damn straight!!!!

 

I live in a small town also. I had just graduated when my dad asked me to move here. My chances at a job went out the window just then. Its been two years and I keep trying. Whats hard is going out to find one and never getting a phone call or anything. Gas money, baby sitter, driving all over heck for nothing. Its hard and your not alone.

Im 31 now and have had what seems to have been a million relationships in my life. She will come man. I would advise that you take care of you and not even think about finding another one. The only way I would advise against that is if you can have some chick move in to pay the bills. Not all of us have it like that though. Any woman with morals wants a guy that has his sht together. If you settle for the easy way out you will get hurt pretty much every time. So thats the secret. Of course exceptions to the rule happen but its always a unknown crap shot.

Lastly I will say that pride and lack of communication will work on a relationship till nothing is left. Me and my wife make it cause we talk about things. I more so will say sorry and take something back that I may have said out of anger. Things like that make a huge diff.

Sorry for your problems man. It will get better.

 

Thanks man. I hear ya on the gas money and stuff. The closest town to me is 30 mins away. Then the next one is 45 mins one way. And you know that these Blazers dont get that good of gas milage. Sucks because it seems that around here all the chicks want either money or a body builder and I have no money and Im a fatty lol. But its cool tho. Im glad we called it off early instead of going a year or more into then she pulling this stunt.

 

I think your priority should be finding a job that pays, you will always have a job when you work for FREE or close to nothing. Women come when you aren't looking for them. Women want guys that aren't looking for them. Guys with a job & are secure with themselves. When you walk around with a women wanted sign on your face they run. Your young you have plenty of time for women. If you really want a job then you have to go where the jobs are. These days jobs aren't in many small towns.
Sorry for your problems but I think you have created the situation your in. We all do.
I'm an old man in my 60s. So I have a little experience with life. I'm now retired but being married to a younger women she still wants to work. I'm OK with that, I have an income & money. So we travel when she is off work. She is a SPED teacher so she has a fair amount off.
Things come when they are suppose to. So hang in there.

 

X2; on the money!

At the OP:
Relax, life will always find a way to get worse, that way you can appreciate how great things can be.

I had to move away to better my life, one of the scariest things I've ever done. I survived, you will too. Sometimes you just have to shut up and eat the turd. Maybe your girl is right, but don't move for her, move for you, or don't do it.

 

Ah, women are a dime a dozen. Take care of you first, and them secind. Just be glad you dont share kids or debts with her, and let her make tracks. Theres plenty more fish in that sea. Amd btw, if shes the type to drop that bomb via text, then help her out by packing her things for her and leave em on the step. Take care and find something younger and hotter. Or dont taake my advice as i tend to be a slimeball when it comes to women...