i think im all good now. readjusted everything on the intake and now i can mash it and its fine. drove it that way all day today, well i didnt mash every single time but it doesnt do it anymore. i really didnt know till now how bad a little extra air could be if it wasnt sensed correctly. i think i have a bad motor mount which causes my engine to move a little more then normal causing the connectors to seperate. thanx for everyones help, and i will keep everyone updated if it messes up the same way again.

 

Good deal!