Ouch that sucks... I'll never understand how someone can do that, just walk out without even a "p*** off, I'm gone" or something. Hope everything works out for you, and like has been said, you're better off with it happening now than in a few years, married, kids, etc.

 

While it's a big loss, you only lost a gf who from the sounds of it obviously wasn't happy about something. The fact she was no longer happy would make you unhappy and then everything would crash and burn in a nasty mess. Trust me. You didn't lose half of everything you own, there are no kids involved, so now if you marry someone you're not sharing custody of your children from the last relationship that went south, meaning you won't have the constant reminders of what was and face to face contact to twist the knife like at birthdays and ****... you may never see her face again.

Hold your head up and stay politically correct when people ask you about what happened. I have made the mistake before of not doing so, and got myself into a huge mess.

Time heals wounds... finding another gf helps time along though lol.

I'm 21 and just broke up with my gf of 4 years in April... not the same situation as you really, but hanging out with friends is the biggest help, hell I've made a ton of new friends since the break up lol, I may even end up dating one of them. Just keep that in mind, do what you want because you can now. Take the pros of the new situation and make the outweigh the cons. Is there something she didn't want you doing? Go do it, it feels good, I promise. Stuff like that, you have to have fun and you'll move on quicker.

 

Appreciate it guys. I'm feeling pretty ****ty, but it'll be alright. Im not blaming myself at all. I know I did my best and im sticking with it and moving on to something in life better. Now i just need to learn how to do my own laundry once again.

Matt,you are girlfriendless and blazerless. What are you doing with all that extra money you are saving?

 

hes doing this

https://blazerforum.com/forum/lounge...anguage-61949/

i gotta admit it is kinda funny

 

Norm from Cheers: Women, can't live with em, pass the beer nuts.
Too much to say about women & not enough space lol. Lets try to round it up - you'll never fully understand ANY woman, they all have likes, dislikes, see things in their individual ways which is fine. But to hinder or keep something to yourself (male or female) & then break up without letting your "other" know (IE: TALKING ABOUT THINGS!!!) that you are having issues with something in the relationship, that's immature in my view.
Communication is key to everything <--- remember that. It took me way too many years to realize it lol
Even if it's a bad thing to talk about, TALK about it, because it'll be even worse later on if you hadn't.
Anything anyone says in here or in person probably really doesn't help right now, maybe in a month or so you can look back & having thought things over can see what people are talking about, seeing what they mean. Getting out like oktain said is good & takes your thoughts off things & hey, you may meet someone new.
Not to replace, never try or even think of someone new to "replace" an ex! You'll call them by the ex's name at the most improper time & WHOOPS back into the hubcap for another spin.

It's never easy, especially when you may not be sure why they did what they did, but I'm sure with some thought you may have ideas.

GL my friend, as was said: hold your head up high, carry on with life & learn from things, it's not all a loss - you have the memories of good times & can be a better person because of them!

Just feels like a loss right now

 

Though TBH I've gone through 2 break ups so far and I thought the "time heals everything" phrase to be uplifting BS. And looking back now, I see it really did "heal" myself and make me a better person overall. Though good luck and Happy Fishin now